Let me preface this by saying I had a fantastic time watching Kuch Kuch Hota Hai this week. I think, though, that while Karan Johar's Bollywood musical is chock-full of catchy melodies, bright colors, and 90s nostalgia, its underlying messages about gender and what constitutes a happy family (and therefore a happy ending) are worth examining a little more critically.
For starters, Anjali Sharma's story arc is troubling in that it reinforces the cliche notion that women must look and act traditionally feminine in order for them to find a man. Teenage Anjali wears her hair short, dresses in sporty clothes, and loves playing basketball. She seems very true to herself and comfortable presenting the way she does, yet as an adult, we find her with hair well past her shoulders and wearing more feminine attire. By that point, too, she has not one but two male love interests. Regardless of whether or not Rahul harbored feelings for Anjali when they were young, he pursued and eventually married the prim girly-girl, Tina.
Not long into the film, however, Tina dies, leaving Rahul to raise their daughter who's named Anjali after their childhood friend who had since moved away. This is something he is actually quite capable of, with a little help from his mother. Their multi-generational household presents a viable alternative to the traditional heterosexual nuclear family. In fact, the homoerotic tension between Tina and Anjali Sharma throughout the flashback sequence covertly proposes yet another possibility. Ultimately, neither of those make the cut, and Rahul and Anjali marry in a typical Hollywood happy ending.
Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, as enjoyable as it is, is a prime example of popular cinema used as a vehicle to promote socially conservative ideals surrounding marriage, gender, and family. As consumers of those sorts of films, we're fed these messages over and over to the point where most of us internalize them and accept them as the truth. Obviously today there are mainstream films that push back against these traditional ideologies, but this is an interesting international example of how cinema can be wildly entertaining yet still advocate for conventional social norms when we look beneath the surface.